I have disappeared from the blogosphere for a little while, not for any special reason but mostly because I have been working on my second women’s fiction novel. The first one is still in an endless cycle of editing, my frienditors (friend editors -my new word) with editing backgrounds have been assisting me, although it seems that life gets busy and my project gets dropped and I am back searching for someone with the knowledge I need to help get this book published! Anyhow, I’ve been reading about social media and advertising in an effort to not only survive this process but to thrive. I am the kind of person that wants to do everything I do well and this marketing thing is so far beyond me that I am reluctant to even touch it even though I know it’s the best way for me to share my work with the world.
What I have learned in the past year is that; one: writing the book is easy.
Two: Finding vanity publishers and people that “want” to help is easy, sifting through and finding anyone credible IS the hard part.
Three: There is a vast community of people like me out there and they are pretty much the coolest people I’ve ever seen! I’ve searched for nearly a year to find the people I need to not only get me on the right track but offer some sense in a world so full of essentially meaningless information that I cringe upon googling anything knowing that I am about to be pelted with more information that I can possibly consume, much less anything that will actually benefit me.
Anyhow, this post isn’t to offer any huge amount of guidance but encouragement. I am reminded of this time and time again, not only in my writing but when I can’t figure out how to teach one of my children, or if potty training will ever happen, or even when the bills are due and there is no money. I know that I have put the best of me into all of my work and there is nothing left to do but stand. It’s the hardest thing to do, I want to push harder, blog/tweet/whatever more but most of the time, the best thing to do it wait. Wait for the right person to point you in the right direction. Wait for the child to mature enough to get it. Let’s face it, sometimes we’re not as ready as we want to be to be pushed over the edge. Sometimes we are the stubborn child clinging to the diapers they’ve had all their lives unable to let go of that security and face the world in big girl undies.
Most of my references go back to motherhood because it’s what I have experience in. It is by far the most challenging but rewarding job I have ever taken on. Nothing in my life has ever pushed me so much, out of my comfort zone and sometimes out of my mind … but it’s the love between my children and me (and my writing) that I cannot quite comprehend that keeps me going and it is a never ending opportunity to learn and grow. In all my research I have also learned that I need to stop worrying so much about having the perfect thing to say and acknowledge that I, along with anyone reading this, are human and with that come imperfections so I am going to try to bring out ‘me’ more and quiet the doubting voices in my head.
So whether it is a stubborn toddler, a new move or change in any area of life. Security is security, whether it’s a binky or that terrifying ‘publish’ button, there is a moment when we’ll be ready to take the plunge. Until then, we stand.